Does getting married complete you? A lot of people believe that getting married completes you as a person. But is that biblical? Does getting married complete you? Well, let’s look at what the Bible has to say about this topic.
When I began thinking about this question, I had a pretty immediate answer in my head. I couldn’t remember a preacher ever answering this specific question, but my own common sense and biblical understanding led me to my answer.
“For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.”
– Ephesians 5:25
This verse above states that husbands are to love their wives just as Jesus loved the church. And Jesus loved the church a whole lot. But was he complete before he ever interacted with the church? I think so. Jesus didn’t need the church to be himself, but his relationship with the church is beautiful, and we certainly needed him to be complete.
To further drive home my point, Jesus was human and never married. At least the Bible never talks of him marrying.
“I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.”
– 1 Corinthians 7:7
Paul was saying that he wished everyone were able to devote their lives to spreading the gospel. Without letting family slow or hinder you in any way. So it’s quite clear that Paul didn’t think you had to be married to be complete.
But we are by no means suggesting you not get married. Families are very capable of doing kingdom work together, and can often be more effective.
I would caution people to not seek out marriage when they’re feeling incomplete. You are bound to be disappointed if you do that. Get married when you’re already doing well being single. Marriage is not some magical potion that will heal you and fill all your longings.
To sum it all up, no, getting married does not complete you.